Believing that I "should" be tuning into joy more is a great way to suffer.
Lightness and Weight
It's not 20/20: How hindsight misleads
Skill at influencing
Why your ideas aren't getting traction
The ravine of the senior engineer
For your entire career, you've overcome new technical challenges, pressing through modest ravines associated with learning a new programming paradigm or working at a different level of the stack. And now you're an accomplished engineer, a model for others, and you want to know how to get promoted to "staff" or whatever the next level on the engineering ladder is. But you've run into some problems.
Create the conditions for your success
When I first stepped into a management role, I read a bunch of books and articles about being a manager. One of those was “Becoming the Boss” by Linda A. Hill, published in Harvard Business Review. The bit of that article that I have always remembered was this story, told under the heading “create the conditions for your success”:
